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Inherited Wounds: Healing Intergenerational Patterns That Keep You Stuck
- Karen Law
- Aug 4
- 3 min read
Some patterns don’t start with us. But they often end with us.
You may find yourself reacting in ways you don’t fully understand, repeating painful dynamics, or carrying a sense of heaviness that doesn’t seem to have a clear origin. Maybe you’ve done years of personal work and still feel like something deeper is getting in the way.
That “something” could be intergenerational trauma.
The Legacy We Carry
We inherit much more than eye colour or temperament from our families. We also carry emotional patterns, belief systems, attachment styles, and nervous system responses that were shaped by generations before us.
Sometimes this legacy is visible: a grandparent who survived war, a parent who experienced neglect, cycles of addiction or abandonment. But often it’s unspoken, unacknowledged, or misunderstood. It’s the mother who shut down emotionally to survive. The father who avoided conflict at all costs. The family where no one talked about pain, let alone healed it.
These patterns shape how we see the world, how safe we feel in our bodies and relationships, and what we believe we deserve.
How It Shows Up
You might be affected by inherited trauma if you:
Struggle with boundaries or people-pleasing, even when you know better
Feel responsible for others' emotions or needs
Stay small, anxious, or hyper-independent, even in safe environments
Repeat similar relationship dynamics or emotional patterns across generations
Carry a vague but persistent feeling of shame, fear, or “not enough”
These responses may not have started with you, but they live in your nervous system, shaping your experience of life.
The Good News: Healing Intergenerational Patterns is Possible
The most empowering truth I’ve come to know is that we don’t have to stay stuck in these inherited patterns.
With the right support, it’s possible to identify what you’ve been carrying for others, and gently begin to release it.
Through my advanced training in Intergenerational Trauma using QEC, I’ve seen profound changes as clients begin to unravel the emotional legacies they didn’t even know were theirs. QEC (Quantum Energy Coaching) works at the subconscious level, allowing us to rewire deep-rooted beliefs and emotional patterns, not just from your lifetime, but from the lineage that shaped you.
And I’m not just offering this work. I’m doing it myself.
Just last week, I explored another layer of family patterns in my own QEC practice. I uncovered a dynamic that echoed through three generations, one I had unknowingly repeated. The session brought a shift I felt not just mentally, but in my body and relationships. This is how healing ripples outward.
You Can Break the Cycle
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to pass this on,” or “This ends with me,” you’re already on the path.
Healing inherited trauma is not about blaming our families, it’s about freeing ourselves. It’s about reclaiming what was lost, so we can move forward with more choice, more safety, and more connection.
You don’t have to carry it all.
Final Thoughts
This work is tender, but it’s powerful. If you're ready to explore the deeper layers of what's been keeping you stuck, the ones that might not even be yours, I’d be honoured to support you.
Together, we can begin the process of healing intergenerational patterns not just for you, but for the generations to come.
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