First written in 2019, this updated reflection explores what truly helps traumatised people heal. Through compassion, co-regulation, and safe connection, our nervous systems can learn to settle again. Healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken. It’s about remembering what safety feels like and finding our way back to ourselves.

Our bodies hold more wisdom than we often realise. Sometimes, the sensations, tensions, or emotions that arise aren’t random, they are reminders of trauma stored in the body. Learning to listen to these signals can guide us towards deeper healing and wholeness.

We inherit much more than eye colour or temperament from our families. We also carry emotional patterns, belief systems, attachment styles, and nervous system responses that were shaped by generations before us. The most empowering truth I’ve come to know is that we don’t have to stay stuck in these inherited patterns. With the right support, it’s possible to identify what you’ve been carrying for others, and gently begin to release it.

For many women, especially those who’ve experienced trauma, these patterns are often chalked up to “being scatterbrained,” “anxious,” or “just overwhelmed.” But what if there’s more going on beneath the surface?

Trauma isn't only about what happened. It’s about how your body responded in the moment and what it had to do to survive

Sustainable self-care isn’t about bubble baths or occasional treats (although those can be lovely too). It’s about weaving practices into your everyday life that help you feel more present, more resourced, and more like yourself.

When our early experiences didn’t give us the safety, love, or attunement we needed, we often carry those wounds into adulthood.

You have an incredible inbuilt, automatic, safety mechanism to alert you to danger and take steps to preserve life. All living beings...

In our modern societies we are spending a lot of time in stress through work, relationships, health concerns, politics, pandemics...

QEC is a wonderful way of supporting people to make lasting changes to their lives.

Now that we’re into September, and the end of summer, I reflect on the year so far. It seems that we’d barely started 2020 and...

Every single human being needs to know that they are: Not alone (even surrounded by people we can sometimes feel terribly alone) Safe In...

‪All my life I was told I was the strong one. No, I wasn’t. There just was no space for me to be heard. So I didn’t say anything

Do you believe that a happy, well rounded individual, who feels loved and wanted, bullies or attacks others?

It is recognised that trauma is being experienced by many of us on a daily basis simply by hearing of it on the news & via our social media

What is Trauma? The word trauma is being used so much now as awareness of Adverse Childhood Experiences has increased and people have...

”It is clear that trauma is held within the body. The body reacted for self preservation using an automatic, unconscious system”

I focused on my breathing, I thought about my positive outcome, I lingered on how the touch felt, I got swept along by the music and disappe