The freeze trauma response can feel like being shut down, numb, or unable to act. It’s the body’s way of protecting itself when fight or flight aren’t possible. The nervous system slows everything down to keep us safe. But when freeze becomes the default response, it can limit how we live, work, and connect with others.

We inherit much more than eye colour or temperament from our families. We also carry emotional patterns, belief systems, attachment styles, and nervous system responses that were shaped by generations before us. The most empowering truth I’ve come to know is that we don’t have to stay stuck in these inherited patterns. With the right support, it’s possible to identify what you’ve been carrying for others, and gently begin to release it.

Sometimes talking just isn’t enough. You might understand why you react the way you do. You may have read all the right books and even had helpful conversations with therapists, friends or support groups. But still, something in your body keeps pulling you back into the same patterns. The same fears. The same emotional pain.

For many women, especially those who’ve experienced trauma, these patterns are often chalked up to “being scatterbrained,” “anxious,” or “just overwhelmed.” But what if there’s more going on beneath the surface?

Trauma isn't only about what happened. It’s about how your body responded in the moment and what it had to do to survive

Sustainable self-care isn’t about bubble baths or occasional treats (although those can be lovely too). It’s about weaving practices into your everyday life that help you feel more present, more resourced, and more like yourself.

Have you ever noticed how music can touch you in a way that words never could? The human body is wired for vibration. Deep within us, the vagus nerve, a key part of our nervous system, listens and responds to these subtle signals, helping to regulate our sense of safety, connection, and wellbeing.

When our early experiences didn’t give us the safety, love, or attunement we needed, we often carry those wounds into adulthood.

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