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Why Wait to Heal? A Different Way Through Birth Trauma
- Karen Law
- 1 hour ago
- 3 min read
If you've been told you'll need to wait months for CBT, or maybe EMDR if you're lucky, you're not alone.
Many women reach out feeling desperate for support after a traumatic birth, only to find themselves on a long waiting list, still struggling with flashbacks, anxiety, and a constant sense of unease.
And while the wait goes on, so does life. You're parenting, maybe working, trying to hold it all together… often while carrying the invisible weight of trauma.
But what if you didn’t have to wait?
The Cost of Waiting
NHS services do their best, but under current pressures, it's not unusual to be offered therapy six months, or more, after first asking for help. By that point, trauma responses can feel even more entrenched.
In the meantime, you might be:
Reliving distressing memories of the birth
Avoiding hospitals, babies, or even thinking about having another child
Struggling to bond, sleep, or feel calm in your own body
Feeling alone or misunderstood, especially if others think you "should be over it by now"
Why Talking Isn’t Always Enough When It Comes to Birth Trauma
Birth trauma isn’t stored in the logical, thinking part of the brain. It’s held in the nervous system. The body remembers what happened, often long after your mind wants to move on.
This is why cognitive approaches like CBT aren’t always effective for trauma. They focus on thoughts and behaviours, but when your body is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze, no amount of logic can talk it out of that state. In fact, trying to "think your way out" of trauma can sometimes make things worse, especially if you're asked to relive the experience before your nervous system feels safe.
This is where TBR 3 Step Rewind offers a different path. One that works with how trauma actually operates in the body.
TBR 3 Step Rewind: A Gentle, Rapid Option
The TBR 3 Step Rewind process is designed specifically for trauma held in the body. It’s gentle, safe, and non-intrusive. You don’t have to retell your story in detail. You don’t have to relive what happened.
Many women describe a deep sense of relief after just one or two sessions.
“The therapy was gentle, fast and surprisingly effective. After just a few sessions, my distressing memories lost their intensity, and I can finally think about my birth experience without emotional pain. The flashbacks and nightmares have stopped, and I am beginning to embrace motherhood with joy instead of living in the past. The weight I carried for so long has finally gone, and I feel more present, more connected, and at peace”— Client, after TBR 3 Step Rewind
This approach helps calm the fight-or-flight response, allowing your mind and body to let go of the trauma in a way that feels spacious and respectful.
If there’s more beneath the surface, we can gently explore that too—using other tools that honour your unique journey.
Imagine what it would feel like to sleep better. To think about the birth without panic. To look ahead with more confidence and less fear.
Should You Have to Choose?
In an ideal world, support would be immediate and freely available. But right now, many women are left holding trauma with no clear timeframe for relief.
If you're feeling stuck, and if it feels right for you, there are options that don’t require waiting. TBR 3 Step Rewind is one of them. You can still access NHS support later if you want to. But in the meantime, you might already be feeling lighter, clearer, and calmer.
Final Thoughts
Healing doesn’t have to take forever. You don’t have to wait for someone else’s schedule to open up before you start feeling better.
If your birth experience is still affecting your daily life, and you're ready to move forward, TBR 3 Step Rewind can offer a gentle and effective way to begin.
💜 Curious about how TBR 3 Step Rewind might help you? I offer a free 30 minute call where you can ask questions and explore whether this approach feels like the right fit. You're in control every step of the way.
👉 Or visit www.karenlaw.co.uk to learn more about birth trauma support.
