In trauma recovery, we work with the nervous system in layers. Each time we create more capacity for safety, another layer of held experience may surface. This is natural, and often necessary. You might feel frustrated by this process: I thought I’d already dealt with this. But the truth is, you’re meeting it now with more support, more regulation, and more choice than you had before.

Sustainable self-care isn’t about bubble baths or occasional treats (although those can be lovely too). It’s about weaving practices into your everyday life that help you feel more present, more resourced, and more like yourself.

Birth trauma isn’t stored in the logical, thinking part of the brain. It’s held in the nervous system. The body remembers what happened, often long after your mind wants to move on.

Intergenerational trauma refers to the way unresolved trauma can be passed from one generation to the next. This can happen through behaviour, emotional patterns, nervous system imprinting, or the stories we do or don’t tell.

As humans, we are biologically wired to seek connection, closeness, and safety with others. But for many of us, early experiences of trauma (especially in childhood) can leave imprints that make relationships feel confusing, overwhelming, or unsafe.

When we talk about safety in the context of trauma healing, we’re not just talking about physical safety, although that’s crucial.

When our early experiences didn’t give us the safety, love, or attunement we needed, we often carry those wounds into adulthood.