Traumatised people are all around us: how are we helping them? What works?
I recently watched a movie called Albert Nobbs, starring Glenn Close. I posted some of my thoughts on Twitter and now put them into this blog post. I don't have time to sit with this and make sure I have good references. It may read a bit jumbled. I just needed to get in into the blog and pad it out a little bit. I will return to it and edit as necessary, especially if any reader can provide more food for thought.
Glenn Close said in interview at the time of the film's release: “People desperately need connection. There's a danger now of getting further and further away from two human eyes looking into two human eyes.”
“The thing that I love is that we have evolved to be empathetic. We have these neurons called mirror neurons, which reflect what you see in other people's faces."
Please see the work of Peter Levine, Bruce Perry, Gabor Maté, Stephen Porges, Bessel Van Der Kolk to name but a few if you really want to understand what she said.
The other day I was struck by what a client was telling me about a hotel she recently stayed at which was so automated, they hardly saw a human being! Check in screens, key cards, self serve dining....
Where’s the humanity?
So, I come back to Glenn Close comments in that interview from 2011: “I think what every human being seeks is safety and connection.”
Absolutely! Everybody I connect with looking to make a difference with regard to trauma agrees.
Albert Nobbs, a film with trauma, women doing what they have to do to survive, set in the late 19th Century. We see g