First written in 2019, this updated reflection explores what truly helps traumatised people heal. Through compassion, co-regulation, and safe connection, our nervous systems can learn to settle again. Healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken. It’s about remembering what safety feels like and finding our way back to ourselves.

The freeze trauma response can feel like being shut down, numb, or unable to act. It’s the body’s way of protecting itself when fight or flight aren’t possible. The nervous system slows everything down to keep us safe. But when freeze becomes the default response, it can limit how we live, work, and connect with others.

For many women, especially those who’ve experienced trauma, these patterns are often chalked up to “being scatterbrained,” “anxious,” or “just overwhelmed.” But what if there’s more going on beneath the surface?

Trauma isn't only about what happened. It’s about how your body responded in the moment and what it had to do to survive

When life feels overwhelming, our ability to stay calm, focused, and resilient often comes down to the state of our nervous system

Trauma is a word we hear often, yet its impact is deeply personal and unique to each of us. Whether it stems from childhood e...