How trauma affects relationships and how nervous system work can help Wired for Connection—but Carrying Attachment Wounds As humans, we are biologically wired to seek connection, closeness, and safety with others. But for many of us, early experiences of trauma (especially in childhood) can leave imprints that make relationships feel confusing, overwhelming, or unsafe. These early attachment wounds are held in the nervous system, shaping how we respond to closeness, conflict, and emotional intimacy. The Nervous System’s Role in Attachment When we experience inconsistent care, neglect, or overwhelming stress in our early relationships, our nervous system adapts for survival. It might become hypervigilant. Constantly scanning for danger in others’ moods. Or it might shut down, numbing emotional responses altogether. These adaptations can result in patterns such as: Struggling to trust or rely on others Avoiding vulnerability or intimacy Becoming overly dependent or anxiously attached Feeling emotionally flooded during conflict Shutting down or dissociating when overwhelmed These are not character flaws—they are nervous system responses to earlier unmet needs. Recognising Your Patterns with Compassion Healing begins by gently noticing how your body reacts in relationships. Do you tense up when someone gets too close? Do you go numb in emotionally intense situations? Do you people-please to avoid conflict? Bringing awareness to these patterns without judgment is a powerful first step. These responses were once protective—and now, they may be ready to shift. Regulating for Connection When we work to regulate the nervous system, we begin to feel safer, not only in ourselves but also with others. Over time, this can allow for: More grounded communication Greater emotional resilience during conflict A stronger sense of self in relationships The ability to receive love and support more fully This kind of healing doesn’t happen overnight. It comes with gentleness, consistency, and often the support of someone who understands how trauma lives in the body. Nervous System Support That Goes Beyond Talking You don’t have to think your way into better relationships. Because it’s your body that remembers. That’s why trauma-informed approaches that work directly with the nervous system can be so powerful. In my practice, I support women to move out of survival patterns and into more regulated states, where connection and trust can begin to grow. Whether you’ve experienced relational trauma, attachment wounds, or struggle with feeling emotionally safe, there are ways to gently support your system to heal. Final Thoughts When past wounds show up in present relationships, it can feel frustrating and even hopeless. But you are not broken, and you are not alone. 💜 If you’re ready to explore how nervous system healing can support you in feeling more connected, more emotionally safe, and more at ease in relationships, I’m here to walk alongside you. Together, we can find gentle ways forward. #TraumaHealing #NervousSystemHealing #HealingFromTrauma #SomaticHealing #TraumaInformedCare #safe

The importance of safety in healing and how to create it in your daily life. Introduction: Safety Comes First Healing trauma isn’t just about looking back. It's about creating a new way of being in the present. And the foundation for that change is safety. For those who’ve lived through trauma, feeling safe may not come naturally. In fact, it might feel unfamiliar, even threatening. But cultivating a felt sense of safety within your body, your environment, and your relationships is the very first step towards deep and lasting healing. What Does “Safety” Really Mean? When we talk about safety in the context of trauma healing, we’re not just talking about physical safety, although that’s crucial. We’re also talking about emotional, relational, and nervous system safety. You might be physically safe, yet still feel constantly on edge. This is because trauma can rewire the brain and body to stay alert, scanning for danger even when there is none. Until we begin to shift those patterns and help the nervous system feel safe, it’s incredibly difficult to do the deeper healing work. Why Safety Matters in Trauma Recovery A dysregulated nervous system stays in survival mode. Think: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. From that place, it’s hard to think clearly, feel connected, or trust others. But when you feel safe, the body can begin to relax. Your brain becomes more open to new experiences. You start to connect rather than protect. You’re able to access calm, curiosity, and even joy. Creating safety is the beginning of everything. Signs You Might Not Feel Safe (Even If You Are) Constant hypervigilance or tension Difficulty sleeping or relaxing Feeling detached or shut down Avoiding connection or vulnerability A sense that “something bad is going to happen” Recognising these signs isn’t a failure. It ’s the first step to change. How to Begin Creating Safety 🌿 Start Small You don’t need to feel 100% safe to begin. Look for glimmers : small, manageable moments when you feel just a little more at ease. That might be in nature, with a trusted person, or in the way your breath moves when you exhale slowly. 🕯️ Create Safety in Your Environment Soft lighting, comforting scents, favourite textures... small sensory cues can help your nervous system feel soothed. A calm space supports a calm mind. 🤲 Build Safe Relationships Not everyone feels safe, and that’s okay. Prioritise the people who respect your boundaries, listen without judgement, and allow you to show up as you are. Safety grows in relationships where you’re seen and accepted. 🧠 Reconnect with Your Body For many trauma survivors, the body hasn’t felt like a safe place in a long time. Practices like trauma-informed massage can offer a gentle, non-verbal way to rebuild that connection. Safe, nurturing touch reminds the nervous system it no longer has to brace itself. Regular sessions , not just one-offs, can support deeper shifts over time, helping you feel more grounded and present. Regulation and the Role of Trauma-Informed Approaches Healing the nervous system takes more than just insight. It often requires working with someone who understands how trauma lives in the body and brain. That’s where trauma-informed approaches come in. I offer nervous system-focused support that helps gently shift survival responses. Where needed, we can work with trauma symptoms like flashbacks or nightmares, using gentle methods that don’t require revisiting painful memories. When you're ready, we can explore approaches that help rewire old beliefs and build a new, more empowered sense of self. But first, we begin with safety. Final Thoughts Safety isn’t a destination. It’s a foundation. And it’s something we can build together. 💜 If your nervous system feels stuck in survival mode, you don’t have to figure it out alone. I offer trauma-informed support that prioritises safety, regulation, and a sense of connection. So you can begin to heal from the inside out. Let’s find a pace that feels right for you . #TraumaHealing #NervousSystemHealing #HealingFromTrauma #SomaticHealing #TraumaInformedCare #safe

The Lasting Impact of Birth Trauma For many, pregnancy, birth, and the early postnatal period are expected to be times of transformation and connection. But when these experiences are distressing or traumatic, they can leave deep imprints—physically, emotionally, and within the nervous system. Birth trauma isn’t just about the moment of birth. Difficulties during pregnancy, medical interventions, unexpected outcomes, or distressing postnatal experiences can all shape how safe we feel in our bodies. 💜 For mothers , trauma during the childbearing year can lead to lingering hypervigilance, anxiety, or a sense of disconnection from the body. Many also experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), with symptoms such as nightmares, flashbacks, and heightened fear responses.  These can feel overwhelming and isolating, making it hard to move forward. 💜 For babies born into trauma , early nervous system patterns are shaped by survival responses. This can contribute to difficulties with settling, sensitivity to stress, or lifelong patterns of tension and hyper-alertness. Supporting a baby after birth trauma involves helping them feel safe in their body and in connection with their parents.  This might include gentle skin-to-skin contact, responsive comforting, and soothing techniques that promote co-regulation. 💜 If you're wondering how to best support a baby after birth trauma, I’ll be sharing more on this in a future blog post. Stay tuned for ways to nurture regulation and resilience from the very start. How Birth Trauma Shapes the Nervous System Our nervous system is wired for survival, constantly scanning for cues of safety or danger. When birth is traumatic, it can create deep-rooted patterns that influence how we respond to stress, connect with others, and feel at home in our bodies. Common ways birth trauma can show up later in life: ✔️ Feeling chronically overwhelmed or on high alert ✔️ Struggling to trust your body or feel at ease within it ✔️ Difficulty with emotional regulation, especially around safety and connection ✔️ Unexplained physical tension or holding patterns ✔️ A sense of disconnection or numbness Even if birth trauma happened long ago, your body remembers.  But just as it has adapted to protect you, it can also learn to feel safe again. Finding Safety Again The good news is that nervous systems are adaptable.  The same patterns that were shaped by early trauma can shift when given the right support. Healing from birth trauma isn’t about revisiting the past—it’s about giving your body new experiences of safety, regulation, and connection. 💜 Rebuilding a sense of trust in your body 💜 Learning to feel safe, grounded, and present 💜 Releasing deep-held patterns of tension and stress If PTSD symptoms like nightmares, flashbacks, or intense fear responses  are keeping you stuck, there are gentle, effective ways to help. I offer TBR 3 Step Rewind for Birth Trauma/PTSD , a non-invasive approach that can reduce the emotional intensity of traumatic memories, helping you find relief without reliving the experience. Healing Is Possible If you're wondering whether healing from birth trauma is truly possible, here’s what one mother shared after working with me: "I cannot express how grateful I am for Rewind Therapy with Karen. After a traumatic birth experience a year and a half ago, I was left with overwhelming anxiety, flashbacks, and nightmares. It was affecting my ability to be present and enjoy motherhood. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but from the very first session, I felt safe and supported. Karen explained everything in detail and made sure I felt confident with the process and ensured it was all at my pace. She was able to educate me on trauma and Rewind Therapy, allowing me to have a better understanding of my own thoughts and feelings, which was the reassurance I didn’t know I needed! The therapy was gentle, fast and surprisingly effective. After just a few sessions, my distressing memories lost their intensity, and I can finally think about my birth experience without emotional pain. The flashbacks and nightmares have stopped, and I am beginning to embrace motherhood with joy instead of living in the past. The weight I carried for so long has finally gone, and I feel more present, more connected, and at peace. I am beyond grateful for Karen and Rewind Therapy and would recommend her to anyone struggling with birth trauma." This journey isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about freeing yourself from the distressing grip it holds over you. If birth trauma has shaped your nervous system, you don’t have to stay stuck in those patterns. Your body doesn’t have to stay stuck in old survival responses. With trauma-informed support, you can begin to reshape your nervous system’s patterns  and reclaim a sense of safety and ease. Final Thoughts If you’re struggling with the effects of birth trauma—whether that’s physical tension, emotional overwhelm, or PTSD symptoms—you don’t have to navigate this alone. There are ways to gently support your nervous system, helping you feel safer, more regulated, and more present in your body.   Let’s explore what feels right for you. #BirthTraumaRecovery #HealingBirthTrauma #BirthHealingJourney #PostnatalWellness #PTSDRecovery #BirthTraumaPTSD #ReleasingTrauma #NervousSystemHealing #RegulateYourNervousSystem #YouCanHeal #TraumaInformedCare #FromSurvivalToThriving #HealingIsPossible #MindBodyHealing #SafeToHeal #SomaticHealing #RewindForPTSD

Why We Develop Survival Patterns Many of the ways we respond to life as adults are shaped by what we experienced as children. If we grew up in environments that felt unpredictable, overwhelming, or unsafe, our nervous system adapted in ways to help us survive. Patterns like hyper-independence, people-pleasing, or emotional shutdown  are often not personality traits but survival responses. They were useful at one time—keeping us safe, helping us avoid conflict, or making sure we were loved and accepted. But as adults, these patterns can hold us back from deep connections, self-trust, and a sense of ease in the world. The good news? These patterns aren’t permanent. By understanding how they show up and working gently with the nervous system, it’s possible to shift from survival to thriving. Recognising Childhood Trauma Responses in Adulthood Not everyone recognises their responses as linked to trauma. You might simply feel exhausted, stuck in cycles of over-giving, or unable to fully connect with yourself and others. Here are some common patterns that can develop after childhood trauma: 1. Hyper-Independence Feeling like you have to do everything alone Struggling to ask for or receive help Finding it difficult to trust others Feeling uncomfortable relying on support—even when it’s safe to do so. Why it happens:  If support wasn’t consistently available or safe in childhood, your nervous system may have learned that self-reliance is the only option. 2. People-Pleasing Saying yes when you mean no Avoiding conflict at all costs Feeling responsible for others’ emotions Overextending yourself to keep the peace Why it happens:  If being agreeable or ‘easy to be around’ helped you stay safe in childhood, people-pleasing can become a default survival response. 3. Emotional Shutdown Feeling numb or disconnected from emotions Struggling to access joy, excitement, or pleasure Using distraction or overworking to avoid feelings Feeling distant from loved ones, even if you care deeply Why it happens:  If feeling emotions wasn’t safe as a child—perhaps anger wasn’t allowed, or sadness was ignored—your nervous system may have learned to ‘turn down’ feelings to protect you. These patterns aren’t a sign that something is wrong with you—they are signs of a nervous system that adapted in the best way it could. And with time, they can shift. Shifting Survival Patterns: Small Steps Towards Change Change doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t come from forcing yourself into different behaviours. The key is to work with your nervous system rather than against it. Rebuilding Safety in Your Body Regulation comes first. Instead of ‘forcing’ change, focus on feeling safer in your body —whether that’s through grounding exercises, gentle movement, or mindful breathing. Touch-based approaches, such as trauma-informed massage , can support nervous system regulation by providing a safe experience of connection. Releasing the Emotional Charge of the Past Some trauma patterns feel deeply embedded because the nervous system is still responding as if the threat is ongoing. There are gentle, effective ways to help the nervous system process past experiences , reducing emotional overwhelm and easing symptoms like nightmares or intrusive memories. This can create space for a new way of being—one where past experiences no longer hold the same intensity, and you can respond to life from a place of presence rather than old survival patterns. Compassionate Awareness Noticing your patterns without judgement is the first step. When you catch yourself people-pleasing, withdrawing, or pushing people away, gently remind yourself: This is an old survival pattern. I have other choices now. Connecting with Others, Safely If trust feels difficult, start with small, manageable connections —a trusted friend, a therapist, or even simple social interactions that feel safe. Healing happens in relationships. Even if independence was once necessary, learning to receive support is a powerful step toward thriving. Final Thoughts If childhood trauma has shaped your nervous system, you don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode. These patterns developed for a reason, but they don’t have to define you forever. I offer trauma-informed approaches  to help you gently regulate your nervous system and move towards a more connected, easeful way of being. If this resonates, let’s explore what might feel right for you. 💜 #TraumaHealing #NervousSystemRegulation #HealingFromTrauma #PolyvagalTheory #SomaticHealing #MindBodyConnection #BreakingFree #FromSurvivalToThriving #EmotionalHealing #HealingIsPossible #InnerStrength #SelfCompassion #HealingForWomen #TraumaInformedCare #SafeHealing

When Birth Isn’t the Gentle Start We Hoped For The journey into the world isn’t always smooth. For some babies, birth is accompanied by medical interventions, distressing experiences, or unexpected complications. Whether due to a long labour, emergency procedures, separation from parents, or a stressful pregnancy, these early experiences can shape a baby’s nervous system and sense of safety. Just as adults carry the effects of trauma in their bodies, babies, too, can show signs of stress  after a difficult birth. They might seem unsettled, struggle with sleep, have difficulty feeding, or appear highly sensitive to their surroundings. This isn’t because anything is ‘wrong’—it’s simply their nervous system trying to adjust to the world after a challenging start. The good news is that babies are incredibly resilient —and with gentle, responsive support, they can find their way back to regulation. How Birth Trauma Can Affect Babies Babies experience the world through sensations, connection, and co-regulation with their parents . When they go through a stressful birth or early separation, their nervous system may remain in a heightened state, making it harder for them to settle. Some signs that a baby might be holding onto early stress include: ✅ Inconsolable crying  despite being fed and changed. ✅ Startling easily  or appearing tense much of the time. ✅ Feeding challenges , such as difficulty latching or seeming distressed during feeds. ✅ Sleep difficulties , including restless sleep or difficulty settling. ✅ Discomfort with touch , such as arching away when held. ✅ Digestive discomfort , like colic or reflux. These signs don’t necessarily mean something is ‘wrong,’ but they can indicate that a baby needs extra support in feeling safe and regulated . Helping Your Baby Feel Safe After a Difficult Birth The most powerful way to help a baby recover from birth trauma is through gentle, attuned, and responsive care . Here are some simple but meaningful ways to support their nervous system: 1. Skin-to-Skin Contact Holding your baby close regulates their heartbeat, temperature, and breathing , helping them feel secure. Skin-to-skin is beneficial beyond the newborn stage—it can be soothing for older babies, too. 2. Slow, Gentle Touch Some babies may be sensitive to touch after a difficult start. Slow, predictable, and nurturing touch  (such as placing a warm hand on their back or gently stroking their arms) can help them feel safe. If a baby seems overwhelmed, simply placing your hands still on them can be grounding. 3. A Calm, Predictable Environment Babies thrive on rhythm and gentle predictability. Soft lighting, calm voices, and slow movements  can help a baby’s nervous system settle. If they become overstimulated, reducing noise and distractions can make a big difference. 4. Responsive Comforting It’s okay to hold, soothe, and respond to your baby’s needs as often as they require. When a baby has had a stressful start, knowing that their parents will come when they cry helps them build trust in the world. 5. Babywearing for Connection Carrying your baby in a sling or wrap mimics the safety of the womb  and helps regulate their nervous system through movement and closeness. 6. Gentle Movement and Rocking Slow, rhythmic movement—such as rocking in your arms or a gentle sway—can help your baby feel contained and supported. Healing Together: Support for You and Your Baby Birth trauma doesn’t just affect babies—it affects parents too. If your baby’s birth didn’t go as planned, you might feel a mix of emotions, from sadness and guilt to anxiety and exhaustion. It’s important to acknowledge your own experience and find support for your healing as well. If you feel that your baby is still struggling to settle despite your best efforts, you’re not alone. There are ways to support both you and your baby in feeling safer, calmer, and more connected. Final Thoughts Every baby deserves to feel safe, and every parent deserves support in nurturing that safety. If your baby had a difficult start, gentle approaches to regulation and connection  can help you both find your way forward with more ease. If you’re looking for ways to support your baby’s nervous system and begin your own healing journey , I offer trauma-informed approaches that focus on safety and regulation . Whether through gentle body-based work or personalised guidance, I can support you in feeling more confident and connected as you navigate this journey. Would you like to book a session  or learn more about how I can support you and your baby? Get in touch today . #BirthTraumaRecovery #SupportingBabies #GentleParenting #HealingAfterBirthTrauma #NervousSystemSupport #SafeBeginning #RegulatingBaby #TraumaInformedCare #ParentBabyConnection #BirthHealing #SoothingBabies #PostnatalWellness #BabyBonding #NewbornCalm #HealingTogether

For many, birth is expected to be a beautiful and transformative experience. But when things don’t go as planned—when birth feels overwhelming, frightening, or even traumatic—the effects can last long after the event itself. If your birth experience still lingers in your mind, bringing distressing memories, difficult emotions, or a sense of something unresolved, you are not alone. Birth trauma is deeply personal. It’s not about whether a birth was “objectively” difficult—it’s about how your body and nervous system experienced it . And when that experience leaves an imprint, it can affect how you feel—not just about the birth, but about yourself, your body, and even your connection with those around you. If this resonates, know that your feelings are valid, and healing is possible. What Is Birth Trauma? Birth trauma refers to any distressing experience related to childbirth that leaves a lasting emotional, psychological, or physical impact. It can arise from many different situations, including: Feeling unheard, dismissed, or powerless during labour or medical interventions. Experiencing fear, panic, or intense pain without support. Unplanned or emergency procedures that felt overwhelming. Complications affecting you or your baby. Feeling disconnected or dissociated during the birth. Experiencing a loss, such as stillbirth or neonatal complications. It’s important to remember that birth trauma doesn’t just affect mothers. Partners, midwives, and birth workers  can also carry the weight of a distressing birth experience. Signs That Birth Trauma May Still Be Affecting You Sometimes, the effects of birth trauma are obvious. But other times, they show up in ways that may not immediately seem connected to the birth experience. You may notice: 💜 Intrusive thoughts or distressing memories of the birth. 💜 Anxiety, panic, or overwhelm  when thinking about or discussing the birth. 💜 Avoidance of medical settings  or anything that reminds you of the experience. 💜 A sense of guilt or failure , even when you did nothing wrong. 💜 Emotional numbness or detachment  from your body or your emotions. 💜 Difficulty bonding  with your baby. 💜 Feeling on edge, tense, or hypervigilant , as if your body is still bracing itself. These are all signs that the nervous system may still be holding onto the experience, keeping you in a state of fight, flight, or freeze . If any of this resonates, it’s not because you’re failing to “move on.” It’s because your body and mind are still trying to make sense of what happened —and that process takes time, care, and the right support. The Path to Healing: What’s Possible? Healing from birth trauma isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about moving forward in a way that allows you to feel safe, strong, and at ease in yourself again. Working through birth trauma can help you: ✨ Feel more at peace  with your birth experience, without intrusive thoughts or distressing emotions. ✨ Reconnect with your body  and rebuild trust in yourself. ✨ Feel calmer and more grounded , rather than stuck in survival mode. ✨ Strengthen your emotional resilience , so the past no longer holds power over the present. ✨ Feel more present and connected  with yourself, your baby, and those around you. Healing is not about “getting over it”—it’s about finding a way to carry your experience differently , so it no longer feels like something you have to battle alone. Final Thoughts If your birth experience still feels unresolved, know this: You are not alone. Your feelings are valid. And you do not have to stay stuck in survival mode. 💜 If you’re ready to explore what healing could look like for you, I’d love to offer a space that supports your journey. Let’s connect . #BirthTraumaRecovery #HealingFromBirthTrauma #YouAreNotAlone #Matrescence #NervousSystemHealing #TraumaInformedCare #PostpartumSupport #EmotionalHealing #MindBodyWellness #BirthHealing #MothersMatter

Trauma isn’t just something that lives in the past. It lingers in the body, shaping how we feel, respond, and navigate the world. Even when we know  a past experience is over, our nervous system and subconscious beliefs may still be operating in survival mode—keeping us stuck in patterns of anxiety, self-doubt, or emotional numbness. Quantum Energy Coaching (QEC) offers a way to gently shift these deep-rooted patterns, helping the nervous system and mind reconnect with a sense of safety. Why Trauma Healing Needs to Go Beyond Talking For many people, traditional talk therapy can be helpful, but it often has limits when it comes to trauma. That’s because trauma isn’t just about memories—it’s about how our nervous system adapted to survive. You might recognise some of these patterns in yourself: Feeling constantly on edge  or exhausted, like your body can’t fully relax. Struggling with low self-worth, even when you know you deserve more. Avoiding emotions or feeling disconnected from your body. People-pleasing, overworking, or struggling to set boundaries. These responses aren’t conscious choices. They’re deeply ingrained protective mechanisms. The good news? They can change.  And this is where QEC can help. How QEC Supports Trauma Healing QEC is a powerful yet gentle approach that allows us to work directly with the subconscious mind —the part of us that holds onto old beliefs and survival patterns. Developed by Dr. Melanie Salmon, QEC is based on neuroscience and works by: ✔ Accessing the subconscious mind in a relaxed state  (where beliefs can be rewired). ✔ Creating new, positive neural pathways  to replace limiting patterns. ✔ Supporting nervous system regulation  so healing feels safer and more sustainable. Instead of just talking about change, QEC helps you embody it —rewiring the mind-body connection from the inside out. QEC and the Nervous System: Moving from Survival to Safety When trauma is unresolved, the nervous system tends to get stuck in fight-or-flight (hyperarousal)  or freeze (shutdown, dissociation) . Through QEC, we can gently shift these states  by installing beliefs that support safety, ease, and self-trust. Clients often notice: 💜 A sense of deep calm and grounding. 💜 Less emotional reactivity and more space to respond. 💜 A new-found ability to trust themselves and their decisions. 💜 Relief from old patterns of fear, shame, or self-doubt. Healing from Childhood or Birth Trauma with QEC For women healing from childhood trauma , QEC can help rewire beliefs such as: "I am not enough." "I have to be perfect to be loved." "I can’t trust anyone to meet my needs." For those recovering from birth trauma , QEC can support shifts around: Feeling disconnected from the body after a difficult birth. Releasing fear or trauma related to pregnancy or motherhood. Processing emotions that may feel unresolved. The process is gentle and doesn’t require reliving the trauma —instead, it works by creating new subconscious pathways that support healing in the present. What to Expect in a QEC Session Each session is collaborative and client-led . You’ll remain fully conscious and in control as we: Identify the subconscious beliefs that are keeping you stuck. Reframe them into empowering, supportive beliefs. Install the new beliefs while in a relaxed state. Strengthen these changes for lasting transformation. Unlike traditional therapy, QEC works quickly —clients often notice shifts within just a few sessions. When Extra Support Is Needed: Rewind and Massage as Complementary Tools While QEC is a powerful approach for rewiring subconscious beliefs, sometimes the body and nervous system need extra support before deep belief work feels safe. If you’re experiencing ongoing PTSD symptoms  such as nightmares, flashbacks, or distressing intrusive memories , we may begin with Rewind Therapy . This technique is specifically designed to gently reduce the emotional intensity of traumatic memories, often making it easier to move forward with QEC. Similarly, if your nervous system feels highly dysregulated —perhaps you often feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or physically tense— trauma-informed massage  can be a supportive first step. Safe, attuned touch can help build resilience in the nervous system , making it easier to engage with deeper subconscious work when the time is right. Healing is a journey, and there’s no rush— we always start where you feel most comfortable  and work in a way that supports your unique process. Final Thoughts Healing from trauma isn’t about “thinking positive” or pushing through—it’s about gently rewiring the mind and body to feel safe again . QEC is a powerful tool to help bridge that gap, supporting deep, sustainable change. 💜 Curious about how QEC might support you? I’d love to chat. Reach out to learn more or book a session. #QuantumEnergyCoaching #MindBodyConnection #TraumaHealing #NervousSystemRegulation #Neuroplasticity #HealingJourney #EmotionalWellbeing #PTSDRecovery #InnerStrength #HolisticHealing

Touch is one of the most fundamental ways we connect with others and ourselves. However, for individuals who’ve experienced trauma, touch can feel overwhelming or unsafe. Trauma-informed massage offers a gentle, supportive approach to healing by honouring boundaries, fostering safety, and helping the body release stored tension. Why Safe Touch Matters in Healing Trauma can disrupt our relationship with our bodies, leading to disconnection, tension, or a sense of mistrust. Safe touch helps to rebuild this connection by offering: A Sense of Safety:  Trauma-informed massage prioritises your comfort and control, creating an environment where you can relax and feel secure. Support for Nervous System Regulation:  Gentle, intentional touch can signal to the body that it’s safe to shift out of fight-or-flight mode into a state of calm and recovery. Release of Stored Tension:  Trauma often lives in the body, manifesting as tight muscles or chronic pain. Massage can help release these patterns, paving the way for healing. Why Regular Massage Matters While a single session can feel transformative, lasting results often come from regular massage. Trauma affects the nervous system over time, and healing also requires consistency. With each session, your body learns to relax more deeply, integrate the benefits, and maintain a state of balance for longer periods. Regular appointments help: Reinforce the sense of safety and calm cultivated during each session. Gradually release deeply held patterns of tension or trauma stored in the body. Build a stronger connection to your body, supporting overall resilience and well-being. How the Vagus Nerve Fits In Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory  highlights the importance of the vagus nerve in regulating the nervous system. Trauma-informed massage can help activate this nerve, encouraging a shift into a calm, regulated state. Over time, with regular sessions, this activation strengthens the nervous system’s capacity to maintain balance and recover from stress. Always eager to learn, I'm currently reading Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us   by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges. This book thoughtfully examines the impact of safety and trauma on our emotional experiences. It offers insights that could aid in understanding personal growth and well-being. I would recommend it over his other books, as it is more approachable than the more clinical and scientific work, The Polyvagal Theory. How to Get the Most Out of Trauma-Informed Massage If you’re considering trying this approach, here are some tips: Communicate Your Needs:  Share your preferences, boundaries, and any concerns with your therapist before the session. Start Slow:  Building trust takes time, and it’s okay if your journey begins without touch at all. Some clients prefer to use initial sessions to build a relationship with the therapist, focusing on conversation or grounding exercises. Others may start with clothed treatments to feel more secure before progressing to oiled massages or deeper bodywork. This gradual approach ensures that each step feels safe and empowering. Commit to Regularity:  Consistent sessions can deepen the benefits and help your body feel more attuned to safety and relaxation over time. Integrate with Other Healing Modalities:  Trauma-informed massage pairs beautifully with practices like Quantum Energy Coaching (QEC), breathwork, or mindfulness for holistic recovery. The Benefits of Trauma-Informed Massage Clients often report feeling: More grounded:  Touch can anchor you in the present moment, helping you feel more connected to your body. Relief from physical symptoms:  Chronic tension, headaches, and pain often improve with regular sessions. Emotionally lighter:  Releasing stored trauma in the body can bring a sense of emotional relief and clarity. Final Thoughts Understanding how the nervous system responds to trauma allows us to tailor healing approaches that honour the body’s needs. As Dr. Porges reminds us, “Safety is the treatment.” Through trauma-informed massage, we can create a sanctuary of safety, helping the nervous system reset and opening the door to meaningful healing. Safe, compassionate touch has a unique power to support trauma recovery. Through trauma-informed massage, you can reconnect with your body, find relief from stored tension, and take meaningful steps toward healing. Regular sessions can amplify these benefits, giving your nervous system the time and consistency it needs to regulate and heal. If you’re curious about how trauma-informed massage can help on your healing journey, I’d be honoured to support you. Feel free to reach out or book a session to explore this transformative approach. #HealingJourney #MindBodyConnection #TraumaInformedMassage #VagusNerve #MassageTherapy #TraumaRecovery #PolyvagalTheory #NervousSystemRegulation #SomaticHealing #EmpoweredHealing #BodyMindHarmony

When we think about childhood, we often picture a time of growth, exploration, and discovery. But for many, childhood was also a time of stress, fear, or unpredictability —experiences that can leave a lasting imprint on both body and mind. If you’ve ever struggled with anxiety, overwhelm, difficulty trusting others, or feeling disconnected from your body , these patterns may have deeper roots than you realise. Early experiences shape how our nervous system develops, influencing the way we respond to stress, connect with others, and feel safe in the world. The good news? Healing is possible. By understanding how early trauma affects the nervous system, we can begin to reclaim a sense of safety, resilience, and ease. How Early Experiences Shape the Nervous System From birth—and even before—we rely on those around us to help us feel safe. As infants, our nervous system learns through relationships . When caregivers are responsive, comforting, and attuned, a child learns that the world is safe and that their needs will be met. But when early experiences include stress, neglect, unpredictability, or trauma , the nervous system adapts for survival. Instead of learning that safety is predictable, the body stays on high alert—ready to fight, flee, or shut down in response to perceived threats. 💜 Hypervigilance: Always scanning for danger, feeling anxious or on edge. 💜 Dissociation or numbness: Disconnecting from emotions or the body. 💜 Difficulty trusting others: Struggling with closeness or relationships. 💜 Feeling "stuck" in patterns of stress: Reacting strongly to small triggers. These responses are not weaknesses—they are intelligent survival adaptations. Your nervous system did exactly what it needed to do to protect you at the time. But when these patterns remain long after the danger has passed, they can hold you back from fully living. Recognising the Signs of an Overwhelmed Nervous System If early experiences shaped your nervous system to stay in survival mode, you might notice: ✨ Emotional overwhelm – feeling flooded by emotions or shutting down. ✨ Physical tension or fatigue – carrying stress in the body without realising. ✨ Difficulties with boundaries – struggling to say no or feeling responsible for others' emotions. ✨ Feeling "too much" or "not enough" – self-doubt and perfectionism rooted in early experiences. ✨ A sense of disconnect – from yourself, your body, or the people around you. If this resonates, it’s not because something is “wrong” with you—it’s because your nervous system is doing its best to keep you safe, based on past experiences. The key to healing isn’t to “fix” yourself—it’s to offer your nervous system new experiences of safety, connection, and regulation. Reclaiming Regulation: What’s Possible? Healing from early trauma isn’t about revisiting the past—it’s about supporting your nervous system in the present so you can feel: 💜 Calm and centred, rather than anxious or reactive. 💜 More connected to your body and emotions. 💜 Safe in relationships, without fear of rejection or abandonment. 💜 Resilient in the face of stress, rather than overwhelmed by it. 💜 More at ease in yourself, without the weight of past experiences holding you back. Starting the Healing Journey If your nervous system has spent years in survival mode, healing doesn’t have to happen all at once.  Small, consistent shifts can create powerful changes over time. 💜 Learning to recognise what safety feels like in the body. 💜 Gently building self-trust and self-compassion. 💜 Exploring ways to support your nervous system in feeling grounded and regulated. You don’t have to figure this out alone. With a deep understanding of nervous system regulation and a range of trauma-informed approaches, I help clients move from survival mode to a place of ease, connection, and resilience.  Every person’s journey is unique, but with the right support, you can begin to feel safe in your body again. Final Thoughts If early trauma has shaped the way you experience the world, your nervous system doesn’t have to stay stuck in survival mode.  You can begin to shift from feeling overwhelmed and disconnected to feeling more present, more at ease, and more in control of your responses. Regulating your nervous system is key to feeling safe, connected, and grounded in your own life —and I can help you take those first steps. #HealingChildhoodWounds #InnerChildHealing #EarlyTraumaRecovery #AttachmentHealing #YouCanHeal #FromSurvivingToThriving #HealingIsPossible #SelfCompassion #ResilienceInAction #TraumaInformedCare #MindBodyHealing #RegulateYourNervousSystem

When life feels overwhelming, our ability to stay calm, focused, and resilient often comes down to the state of our nervous system. Nervous system regulation is the process of helping our body maintain balance and respond appropriately to stressors. This essential skill can transform how we handle challenges, connect with others, and heal from trauma. Understanding the Nervous System The nervous system acts as the body’s command center, constantly scanning for danger and safety. Its two main branches are: The Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS):  Known as the “fight-or-flight” system, it activates during stress or danger. The Parasympathetic Nervous System (PNS):  Often called the “rest-and-digest” system, it supports relaxation and recovery. In a regulated state, these systems work together, helping us respond to stress and then return to calm. However, trauma or chronic stress can cause dysregulation, leaving us stuck in high alert (anxious, irritable) or shutdown (numb, disconnected). Why Nervous System Regulation Matters When your nervous system is dysregulated, even small challenges can feel overwhelming. Over time, this state impacts physical health, emotional well-being, and relationships. Regulating the nervous system allows you to feel safe in your body, respond to stress more effectively, and build resilience. Practical Tools to Begin Nervous System Regulation Here are some simple practices to help regulate your nervous system and restore balance: Deep Breathing Exercises Practice diaphragmatic breathing by placing one hand on your belly and the other on your chest. Breathe deeply into your belly for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, then exhale for 6 counts. This activates the parasympathetic o nervous system, promoting relaxation. Grounding Techniques Use your senses to anchor yourself in the present moment. For example, name 5 things you can see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear, 2 you can smell, and 1 you can taste. Grounding helps pull you out of fight-or-flight mode and into the here and now. Trauma-Informed Massage Gentle, safe touch can release tension stored in the body, helping the nervous system reset. Trauma-informed massage also fosters a sense of safety, which is key for healing. Movement and Somatic Practices Gentle movements like yoga, stretching, or shaking can release pent-up energy from the body and restore a sense of calm. Quantum Energy Coaching (QEC) QEC offers a powerful way to address subconscious patterns that keep the nervous system stuck in dysregulation. By working directly with the mind-body connection, QEC can help you rewire your response to stress and build a stronger sense of safety. Connect with Nature Spending time outdoors—walking, gardening, or simply sitting under a tree—can naturally regulate the nervous system by calming the senses. A Gentle Reminder Healing your nervous system is a process, not a quick fix. Start small, experiment with different tools, and notice what feels best for you. Remember, every step toward regulation is a step toward greater balance and resilience. By learning to support your nervous system, you empower yourself to navigate life’s challenges with more ease and grace. If you’re curious about how nervous system regulation could transform your healing journey, I’d love to connect— let’s chat! #NervousSystemRegulation #TraumaHealing #MindBodyConnection #SelfCare #TraumaInformed #TraumaRecovery #BodyMindHealing #FightOrFlight #QuantumEnergyCoaching #QEC #Massage #Resilience #AutonomicNervousSystem #ANS #healing #transformation #resilience

Trauma is a word we hear often, yet its impact is deeply personal and unique to each of us. Whether it stems from childhood e xperiences,sudden events, or prolonged stress, trauma leaves an imprint on the mind and body, often showing up as tension, pain, or emotional triggers long after the initial event. It has the power to shape how we view the world, our relationships, and ourselves. But here’s the empowering truth: your body also holds the key to healing. What Is Trauma? Trauma is not just something that happens to us—it’s something our body remembers. When faced with a threatening situation, our body activates a survival response: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. These reactions are natural and protective. However, when the threat is overwhelming or prolonged, our nervous system can become "stuck," leaving us in a heightened state of alertness or shutting us down completely. The Body Remembers Woman in pain Have you ever noticed your stomach clenching under stress or your shoulders tensing when you're anxious? These feelings indicate that our bodies hold onto trauma. Even if our minds forget, our bodies remember, often manifesting as chronic pain, fatigue, or emotional overload. Physical symptoms like muscle tension, headaches, or digestive problems may arise from unresolved trauma. Emotional signs such as anxiety, numbness, or irritability are also connected to how the nervous system handles past experiences. The Mind-Body Connection Healing trauma requires more than talking about it. While understanding and acknowledging your story is important, true healing involves reconnecting with your body. This is where trauma-informed approaches come in. Techniques that focus on the mind-body connection—such as massage therapy, somatic practices, and mindfulness—can help release the tension and trapped energy stored in the body. The Role of Nervous System Regulation Regulating the nervous system is a cornerstone of trauma healing. This means creating conditions where your body feels safe enough to shift out of survival mode. Simple practices like deep breathing, grounding exercises, and gentle movement can help signal to your nervous system that it’s okay to relax and recover. Over time, these practices can rewire your body’s response to stress, building resilience and a sense of safety. The Science of Healing Through the Body Therapy room The good news is that the body is designed to heal. With the right support and tools, it’s possible to release stored tension and restore balance. Trauma-informed practices like massage therapy, somatic work, and energy healing focus on creating a safe, supportive space for this process. By tuning into the body, you can begin to: Recognize and release stored emotions. Reclaim a sense of safety and calm. Strengthen your connection to the present moment. Trauma-Informed Massage: A Path to Healing One powerful way to support your body’s healing journey is through trauma-informed massage. This specialised form of massage therapy goes beyond the typical techniques employed in traditional massage practices. Unlike conventional massage, which often focuses solely on alleviating physical discomfort and muscle tightness, trauma-informed massage is deeply rooted in principles of safety, consent, and a thorough understanding of how trauma can manifest in the body. This approach acknowledges that trauma can have profound effects not only on mental and emotional well-being but also on physical health, leading to chronic pain, tension, and disconnection from one’s own body. Small Steps, Big Changes one small step Healing from trauma doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a journey of small, consistent steps. As you begin to listen to your body and honour its needs, you’ll find that even the smallest shifts can create meaningful change. Over time, these changes build on each other, leading to greater peace, resilience, and wholeness. You Hold the Key Your body is not just a vessel for your experiences—it’s also your greatest ally in healing. By understanding how trauma affects the body and embracing practices that support nervous system regulation, you can begin to unlock the door to recovery. Remember, healing is a journey, and you have the strength and wisdom to take the first step. Practical Steps to Begin Your Healing Journey If you’re ready to take the first step toward healing, here are some gentle practices to try: Deep Breathing : Slow, intentional breaths signal your nervous system that it’s safe to relax. Grounding Techniques: Activities like walking barefoot on grass or holding a warm cup of tea can help you stay anchored in the present. Mindful Touch: Trauma-informed massage provides a safe way to reconnect with your body and release tension. Quantum Energy Coaching (QEC): This approach works by accessing the subconscious mind to reprogram limiting beliefs and release trauma stored in your energy system. QEC provides a gentle yet transformative way to shift patterns and create lasting change in how you feel and respond to life. Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. Your body is always communicating with you—listen to it with compassion and curiosity. Final Thoughts Comprehending trauma is not about experiencing the pain again; it's about regaining your strength and acknowledging your resilience. Your body serves as your greatest ally in this journey, providing wisdom and strength to lead you toward healing. If this resonates with you, I’d love to support you on your journey. Feel free to reach out or explore more resources on my blog. #TraumaHealing #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #MindBodyConnection #SomaticHealing #TraumaInformed #SomaticAwareness #QuantumEnergyCoaching #EnergyHealing #QECHealing

Let’s talk about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Living with undiagnosed Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) has been a journey filled with challenges, triumphs, and countless lessons. I often wrestled with procrastination and a lack of focus, but I didn’t know why. By sharing my story, I hope to shed light on these struggles and offer practical strategies that have made a real difference in my life. Understanding Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder ADHD is often characterised by difficulties in maintaining attention and organising tasks. It can feel like my thoughts are constantly bouncing around, making prioritising tasks daunting. This not only disrupts daily life but can also lead to procrastination—a behaviour particularly common among women experiencing ADHD. Research suggests that women are frequently underdiagnosed and face unique challenges. Studies indicate that men are diagnosed with ADHD three to four times more often than women. Many women go unnoticed due to their ability to mask symptoms and the absence of the hyperactivity element. I certainly didn’t realise ADHD could exist without visible hyperactivity. Social expectations to appear organised and focused only amplify feelings of self-doubt and procrastination. A serene reading nook inviting focus and calm. Procrastination and ADHD For years, procrastination shadowed me like a constant companion. My to-do list grew longer while I got distracted by endless scrolling on social media. Actually, who am I kidding? I didn’t even manage to write to-do lists! It’s often not until later in life that people begin to question whether they might be living with ADHD. Perhaps a child’s diagnosis prompts parents to notice patterns in themselves. In my case, I started researching ADHD to better support people in my work and private practice. When I discovered Sari Solden’s books, I was dumbfounded. Although I haven’t received a formal diagnosis, it felt like she was talking about me! I get so frustrated with my tendency to procrastinate. Even when I know that starting tasks would make them easier, I still put them off until the last minute. I even procrastinate about going to bed—determined to have an early night, yet somehow still delaying it. It’s ridiculous! Identifying Triggers The first step in overcoming procrastination was pinpointing my triggers. I learnt that certain tasks or environments left me feeling particularly overwhelmed. Large projects often seemed insurmountable, prompting me to avoid them altogether. Through self-reflection, I discovered that breaking tasks into smaller, manageable parts helped significantly. For example, rather than attempting to clear an entire room, I now focus on just one drawer or corner. This small change created a sense of accomplishment and gradually diminished my tendency to procrastinate. There are many other symptoms people with ADHD experience, and many resonate with me. Forgetting to eat or drink is a common one—I’ve just realised my tea has gone cold! I call this my “object permanence issue.” Anything or anyone not front and centre of my focus tends to get overlooked. For example, if I put something away in a “safe place,” I’ll struggle to find it again—or even forget I have it. Creating a Supportive Environment I soon realised that my environment played a crucial role in my focus. Initially, I dismissed the idea that surroundings could impact productivity, but my experience proved otherwise. My part-time job has taught me to be more organised, although my home life is still a work in progress. Decluttering my workspace and removing unnecessary distractions helped me feel more centred. I’ve also added bright lighting and calming colours to create a tranquil atmosphere. A tidy, inviting space makes it easier to tackle tasks head-on Implementing Practical Strategies Practical strategies have been essential in managing my ADHD and overcoming procrastination. Here are two approaches that have worked wonders for me: Time Blocking : Allocating specific time blocks for focused work has been a game changer. Using reminder apps helps me stay on track, and dedicating defined timeframes to tasks minimises distractions while boosting my concentration. Pomodoro Technique : Working in short bursts of around 25 minutes, followed by five-minute breaks, prevents burnout and keeps my mind refreshed. These techniques have empowered me to regain control and tackle tasks that once felt impossible. While I’ve mastered this approach at work, I’m still learning how to implement it more consistently at home. The Role of Self-Compassion Throughout this journey, I’ve learned the importance of self-compassion. It’s okay to have off days. Adopting a gentler mindset has eased the harsh self-critique that used to plague me and helped me appreciate even small progress. When I feel overwhelmed or procrastinate, I pause, breathe, and remind myself that setbacks are part of the process. Embracing ADHD is not a weakness; it’s simply a part of my life that requires patience and understanding. Reaching Out for Help There were times when the weight of ADHD felt overwhelming, but getting support from my team leader and colleagues has been transformative. Opening up about my experiences helped me feel less alone, and their understanding and encouragement have been invaluable. In addition, connecting with support groups and online communities has provided comfort and practical advice. Hearing others share similar struggles reminded me that I am not alone in this journey. Together, we can learn, grow, and support each other in finding strategies that work for our unique experiences. A tranquil tea setup promoting focus and reflection. Moving Forward with Purpose Overcoming procrastination with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder has been a continuous journey of understanding, strategy, and self-acceptance. By identifying my triggers, creating supportive surroundings, and implementing practical strategies, I am finding my focus. It’s crucial for women with ADHD to recognise that their journey is unique and to approach it with kindness. By challenging societal expectations, we can build lives filled with purpose and fulfilment, one step at a time. I hope that by sharing my story, I can inspire others facing similar challenges to take charge and find their own paths to success. With dedication, perseverance, and self-compassion, it is entirely possible to overcome procrastination and nurture the focus we all desire. Share your thoughts: How do you manage procrastination with ADHD? Let’s discuss in the comments #AttentionDeficitDisorder #ADHD #women #procrastination #inattention #disorganised #clumsy #forgetful #LosingThings